Generation gap is an understanding gap.
Maturity is not a physical state of a person, it is a clarity about his own needs and wants. A child has no clarity about his needs. In the development process, we need our own space in our life.
Sometimes the environment does not allow this type of space. People behave like socially desirable behavior. They block themselves and don't express their needs and wants. They repress them but it does not mean that they don't have their own needs and wants. Actually, the people who have low self-esteem need approval to work on their decisions. Self-esteem is how we value and perceive ourselves. It is based on our opinions and beliefs about ourselves, which can feel difficult to change. Both the elders and young are not aware of this aspect of psychological process and both the generation have suffered with this mismatch. We highlight some issues to understand the needs of our elders:
Care has no substitute, and it doesn't understand the age gap.
Recently, we met a client during a counselling session. She was 52 years old. She was suffering from separation anxiety. In which someone fears being apart from losing a person. It is most commonly found in children. The client wanted her son to not leave her because her husband is already in the army, and she lived only with her grandfather -in-law. She wanted them to live together with him. He wanted to join a company for a better future with his wife. He cannot manage all things financially with them. So here we need to understand that career is also important as well as her mother needs. Her mother also needs his support and love. So, we need to adopt a midway to manage all things with life. We guide both of them that we need to refine our belief and not think negative things on behalf of observation in a particular environment. They can manage their things and don't feel a burden to each other.
Feel their concerns and hold their hand.
Don't be irritated at once after listening to their talks and in a good conversation with your elders. Don't take personal hurts and intention-based things. We can understand that these things come from social norms.
Here we mention Homi Jehangir Bhabha is the Indian father of physics for his great contribution in the field of nuclear physics. He mentioned his relationship with his father in his childhood. He said that his father wanted him to become an engineer, but he wanted to become a scientist in physics.
He enrolled in an institute for engineering, and he was not comfortable with it.
One day he decided that he should tell his father about the plan. He thought about it for 2-3 days, how he could express his thought and how to convince his father for his future plan. One day he decided to write a letter to his father. He wrote in a letter that he wanted to become a scientist and he wanted to do something in physics. His father replied to him that if he gets first division in engineering and after that he will be able to do something in physics. He worked hard in engineering and got first division. Now we know him as a great personality in the science field. Understand their concerns and when they feel comfortable with you can talk about your concerns. Your creativity can manage your goal with the pace of time.
Unconditional love and positive regards
Recently, we met a client during a counselling session. She was 52 years old. She was suffering from separation anxiety. In Our elders also need unconditional positive regard and love. Abraham Maslow defined it that we have some needs of hierarchy in which people reach different stages of the hierarchy throughout life and at different times they might experience a deficit in a certain stage when this occurs a person will open temporary abundant pursuits of a higher stage in order to have the more fundamental met.
This needs shifts in another after fulfilling the one. Esteem is necessary for self-actualization and a person may work to achieve esteem once needs for love and a sense of belonging or met self-confidence and acceptance from others are important components of this next level. Self-actualization is the ability to meet once true potential and the necessary components of self-actualization vary from person to person. A father might be self-actualized when able to competently care for his children. Maslow argued that the failure to have needs met at various stages of the hierarchy could lead to mental health issues; individuals who don't feel love or belonging may experience depression or anxiety. Lack of esteem or the inability to self-actualize may also contribute to depression and anxiety. someone fears being apart from losing a person. It is most commonly found in children. The client wanted her son to not leave her because her husband is already in the army, and she lived only with her grandfather -in-law. She wanted them to live together with him. He wanted to join a company for a better future with his wife. He cannot manage all things financially with them. So here we need to understand that career is also important as well as her mother needs. Her mother also needs his support and love. So, we need to adopt a midway to manage all things with life. We guide both of them that we need to refine our belief and not think negative things on behalf of observation in a particular environment. They can manage their things and don't feel a burden to each other.
So, we can manage all things with the awareness of the needs of nature. We need some space for everybody who is related to us. That is a great thing in our relationships. We must cooperate them to get out from it must understand that the product of genetic material and environmental pressure we can corporate then and make realize that we survive we can survive your choice in this will prove them that they would also do it but, but we are flexible with them and corporate them very well.
At last, we can say that family is our primary responsibility, and we cannot compare them with imbalanced people and leave them in bad situations with the lame excuse that there is a generation gap.
